CBT is considered the gold standard for ADHD therapy — and for good reason. It teaches structure, focus, and the pause most of us never learned. But therapy alone isn’t enough. In this deeply personal, sharply funny post, The Cynical Romantic explores why compassion is the missing piece no treatment plan includes. From OCD overlaps to burnout guilt to a dating story gone sideways, this piece reminds us that healing isn’t just about fixing habits — it’s about forgiving ourselves for surviving without a roadmap.

ADHD isn’t a lack of effort—it’s a lifelong improv show with no script and terrible props. In this darkly funny confession, The Cynical Romantic unpacks adult ADHD, burnout, masking, and the shame we were never meant to carry.

Dating with ADHD and OCD feels a little like juggling flaming swords while someone yells, “Relax!” This week’s Do Better. Be Better. post goes straight into the tangled wiring of two conditions that love hijacking your plans, emotions, and romantic timing. The Cynical Romantic disusses the science as he has learned it, the chaos, and the deeply human reality of living with both—why burnout hits harder, why relationships get confusing, and why you’re not the disaster your brain whispers you are. Blending expert insights with painfully relatable moments, this post gives hope, humor, and a reminder that your brain isn’t broken—it’s just extra… enthusiastic. If you’ve ever felt like your mind is a pinball machine with no off-switch, this one’s for you.

In this week’s Do Better. Be Better. post, I share what it was like being diagnosed with ADHD and OCD in my 60s — and how I stopped fighting my mind and started building systems that actually work with it.

This isn’t advice or therapy. It’s a personal story about memory fog, asking too many questions, living inside creative chaos, and finally understanding why structure feels like freedom.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does my brain work like this?” — you’re not alone.

👉Read the full DBBB post

Neurodivergent love is a special kind of beautiful chaos — part rollercoaster, part scavenger hunt, part emotional group project nobody fully read. This week, The Cynical Romantic unpacks ADHD/OCD relationships with wit, honesty, garlic, and one legendary snack drawer. You’re in good company.

I didn’t realize until writing this post how many of my “communication quirks” were actually symptoms of ADHD and OCD. I just thought I was… socially spicy. Turns out the brain has more influence on our words than we give it credit for. If you’ve ever felt broken because you can’t say the “right thing,” you aren’t. You’re human. And your brain is trying its absolute best.

Neurodivergent brains make romance… interesting. This week, The Cynical Romantic unpacks the wild dance of dopamine, serotonin, intrusive thoughts, and emotional misfires that shape ADHD/OCD relationships. From mismatched brain chemistry to overthinking text messages, this post explores why love can sometimes feel like science gone wrong — and why it’s not your fault. If you’ve ever replayed a conversation 47 times or forgotten your own birthday dinner because you hyperfocused on reorganizing the spice rack, this one’s for you. Learn the research, laugh at the chaos, and discover why you might actually be wired for love — just… differently.

Love, Lies & Scandals is where romance meets reality—with a stiff drink and a side of self-awareness. In When Cupid Meets the Chemistry Set, The Cynical Romantic explores what happens when ADHD, OCD, and celebrity drama collide in the great social experiment we call love. From Howie Mandel’s handshake ban to David Beckham’s color-coded closets, this post reminds us that even the polished and famous are gloriously neurodivergent messes. You’ll laugh, cringe, and maybe recognize yourself in the reflection of someone else’s chaos. Because whether you’re impulsively texting your ex or alphabetizing their cereal boxes, the truth remains: love is equal parts science experiment and dumpster fire. Pull up a chair, grab a donut, and let’s overthink this together.

When ADHD and romance collide, connection moves at light speed. You talk fast, feel deeply, and second-guess every heartbeat at 3 a.m. — usually while reorganizing your sock drawer. This week on Do Better. Be Better., The Cynical Romantic dives into the exhilarating, exhausting ways ADHD shapes how we love, listen, and (occasionally) interrupt mid-sentence. From dopamine-driven attraction to sensory overload at dinner, we unpack why relationships can feel like both fireworks and feedback loops. With humor, empathy, and research from CHADD, the Cleveland Clinic, and ADDitude Magazine, we explore how to turn emotional hyperfocus into mindful connection. Because love isn’t about perfect timing — it’s about pausing, breathing, and daring to be fully present… even if your brain’s already two chapters ahead.

Fake health miracles are the catfish of the wellness world—flattering, flattering… then suddenly asking for your credit card.
This week, The Cynical Romantic takes on the viral “Dr. Sanjay Gupta Honey Formula,” a too-sweet scam that’s been popping up across social feeds. Turns out, Dr. Gupta never endorsed it—and those ads are as real as a Tinder bio that says “6’2 in person.”
With humor, honesty, and a dash of AI fact-checking, LL&S shows you how to sniff out phony claims in minutes—whether it’s a fake miracle pill or a fake Prince Charming.
Because trust should be earned, not marketed. Read the full blog, laugh a little, and learn how to spot a scammer before you swipe or click.
💋 Love Lies & Scandals—where passion meets poor judgment, and truth gets the last word.

Welcome to Love, Lies & Scandals — where passion meets poor judgment, and self-discovery occasionally wears noise-cancelling headphones. Here, we explore the beautiful chaos of love, mental health, and modern connection through humor, honesty, and a healthy dose of overthinking. From ADHD-fueled relationships to the soothing world of ASMR, every story dives into the messy intersection between emotion and logic — or as I call it, “Tuesday.”

Think of this space as your sanctuary for the wonderfully human: where heartbreak gets analyzed, healing gets a playlist, and personal growth comes with caffeine and sarcasm. Whether you’re chasing calm, clarity, or closure, you’ll find it here — whispered, written, and occasionally confessed out loud.

Love, Lies & Scandals: proof that even when we tangle our hearts (and our earbuds), there’s still beauty in the static.

Ever fallen in love with someone while your brain kept running diagnostics? Welcome to OCD in Love — The Battle Between Control and Connection, where romance meets rumination and every “I love you” gets fact-checked. This week, The Cynical Romantic wrestles with intrusive thoughts, perfectionism, and the irresistible urge to overthink every emoji. From high-school dating disasters and 18-month “relationship warranties” to the science of reassurance-seeking, this post dives deep into why control feels safer than vulnerability—and why it’s also the fastest way to kill a spark. Equal parts confessional and psychological survival guide, it’s a story of learning to laugh at your anxiety, love through uncertainty, and maybe even stop auditing text messages.

Read it under Do Better. Be Better. and remember: real love isn’t perfect—it’s persistently imperfect, and that’s what makes it worth it.

Ever find yourself dreaming up big plans, only to get stuck in the loop of “someday”? You’re not alone. In this candid reflection, The Cynical Romantic peels back the layers of what it means to live with ADHD and OCD — where imagination often races ahead of reality. This isn’t a sob story; it’s a truth-telling moment about how easy it is to mistake thinking for doing. Through humor, humility, and a bit of hard-earned self-awareness, this post explores how neurodiverse minds can fall in love with possibility and forget the power of patience. Whether you’ve caught yourself overplanning, overhelping, or overthinking, this piece reminds us that growth begins not with grand gestures but with small, genuine actions. Sometimes, the bravest thing we can do is just take the first step.

The Cynical Romantic tackles the overthinking brain with the same humor and heart that fueled the infamous Hero Complex confession. If your ADHD or OCD turns quiet moments into mental marathons, this is your whispered wake-up call. Discover how ASMR — those soothing sounds of rain, tapping, and soft chaos control — can become your emotional reset button. We’re not promising perfection; we’re just teaching your inner hero to whisper instead of shout. So grab your headphones, breathe, and let’s make peace with the mind that never shuts up. It’s mindfulness with sarcasm, wellness with eye rolls — and somehow, it works.

Dive into The Cynical Romantic’s world of overthinking, overfeeling, and occasionally oversharing. From ADHD brain hacks to relationship red flags, this is your one-stop shop for emotional wellness, self-awareness, and the occasional existential giggle. Because who says mental health can’t come with a punchline?

Ever get so close to success that your brain panics and decides it’s the perfect time to reorganize your sock drawer? Welcome to Success Sabotage Syndrome — that special ADHD magic trick where progress triggers chaos. In this brutally honest and oddly comforting essay, The Cynical Romantic confesses how every dopamine drought, creative spiral, and existential meltdown somehow turned into a lesson in patience and self-compassion. From understanding the neuroscience of distraction to reframing social media as storytelling, this piece invites readers to laugh, relate, and maybe forgive themselves for being gloriously inconsistent.

You ever lie awake replaying your life’s blooper reel? Same. That’s where ASMR sneaks in—not the whispery weird stuff your ex mocked, but a science-backed hush button for brains that refuse to clock out. In this LL&S series, Tingles & Whispers, we explore how sound, rhythm, and human attention can calm chaos and help ADHD, OCD, and insomnia survivors find peace without the side of guilt

If you’ve ever lain awake replaying your top-ten regrets while the universe mocks you with silence, ASMR might be your next unlikely fling. Part science, part internet oddity, ASMR is the soft-spoken, tingle-triggering trend that promises calm brains, slower heartbeats, and maybe even better relationships. In this field guide, The Cynical Romantic dissects the phenomenon with the same sharp wit usually reserved for exes and bad first dates.

Because love already comes with enough challenges… let’s not pretend neurodivergence makes it any easier.

Relationships can be messy, confusing, and beautiful even when everything’s going "right." Throw in ADHD or OCD—or both—and suddenly, dinner plans turn into emotional negotiations, and date night feels like a board meeting scheduled by your inner chaos coordinator.

If you or your partner are managing ADHD or OCD, you already know: the emotional highs can be euphoric… and the misunderstandings can feel like a punch to the gut. Let’s break down how ADHD and OCD affect relationships—and how to navigate it without setting the whole thing on fire.

Romance vs. Chaos-warm and joyful vs. cold and chaotic.