CBT is considered the gold standard for ADHD therapy — and for good reason. It teaches structure, focus, and the pause most of us never learned. But therapy alone isn’t enough. In this deeply personal, sharply funny post, The Cynical Romantic explores why compassion is the missing piece no treatment plan includes. From OCD overlaps to burnout guilt to a dating story gone sideways, this piece reminds us that healing isn’t just about fixing habits — it’s about forgiving ourselves for surviving without a roadmap.

ADHD isn’t a lack of effort—it’s a lifelong improv show with no script and terrible props. In this darkly funny confession, The Cynical Romantic unpacks adult ADHD, burnout, masking, and the shame we were never meant to carry.

In this week’s Do Better. Be Better. post, I share what it was like being diagnosed with ADHD and OCD in my 60s — and how I stopped fighting my mind and started building systems that actually work with it.

This isn’t advice or therapy. It’s a personal story about memory fog, asking too many questions, living inside creative chaos, and finally understanding why structure feels like freedom.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does my brain work like this?” — you’re not alone.

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Neurodivergent brains make romance… interesting. This week, The Cynical Romantic unpacks the wild dance of dopamine, serotonin, intrusive thoughts, and emotional misfires that shape ADHD/OCD relationships. From mismatched brain chemistry to overthinking text messages, this post explores why love can sometimes feel like science gone wrong — and why it’s not your fault. If you’ve ever replayed a conversation 47 times or forgotten your own birthday dinner because you hyperfocused on reorganizing the spice rack, this one’s for you. Learn the research, laugh at the chaos, and discover why you might actually be wired for love — just… differently.

When ADHD and romance collide, connection moves at light speed. You talk fast, feel deeply, and second-guess every heartbeat at 3 a.m. — usually while reorganizing your sock drawer. This week on Do Better. Be Better., The Cynical Romantic dives into the exhilarating, exhausting ways ADHD shapes how we love, listen, and (occasionally) interrupt mid-sentence. From dopamine-driven attraction to sensory overload at dinner, we unpack why relationships can feel like both fireworks and feedback loops. With humor, empathy, and research from CHADD, the Cleveland Clinic, and ADDitude Magazine, we explore how to turn emotional hyperfocus into mindful connection. Because love isn’t about perfect timing — it’s about pausing, breathing, and daring to be fully present… even if your brain’s already two chapters ahead.

Welcome to Love, Lies & Scandals — where passion meets poor judgment, and self-discovery occasionally wears noise-cancelling headphones. Here, we explore the beautiful chaos of love, mental health, and modern connection through humor, honesty, and a healthy dose of overthinking. From ADHD-fueled relationships to the soothing world of ASMR, every story dives into the messy intersection between emotion and logic — or as I call it, “Tuesday.”

Think of this space as your sanctuary for the wonderfully human: where heartbreak gets analyzed, healing gets a playlist, and personal growth comes with caffeine and sarcasm. Whether you’re chasing calm, clarity, or closure, you’ll find it here — whispered, written, and occasionally confessed out loud.

Love, Lies & Scandals: proof that even when we tangle our hearts (and our earbuds), there’s still beauty in the static.