In this week’s Do Better. Be Better. post, I share what it was like being diagnosed with ADHD and OCD in my 60s — and how I stopped fighting my mind and started building systems that actually work with it.

This isn’t advice or therapy. It’s a personal story about memory fog, asking too many questions, living inside creative chaos, and finally understanding why structure feels like freedom.

If you’ve ever thought, “Why does my brain work like this?” — you’re not alone.

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I didn’t realize until writing this post how many of my “communication quirks” were actually symptoms of ADHD and OCD. I just thought I was… socially spicy. Turns out the brain has more influence on our words than we give it credit for. If you’ve ever felt broken because you can’t say the “right thing,” you aren’t. You’re human. And your brain is trying its absolute best.

Ever fallen in love with someone while your brain kept running diagnostics? Welcome to OCD in Love — The Battle Between Control and Connection, where romance meets rumination and every “I love you” gets fact-checked. This week, The Cynical Romantic wrestles with intrusive thoughts, perfectionism, and the irresistible urge to overthink every emoji. From high-school dating disasters and 18-month “relationship warranties” to the science of reassurance-seeking, this post dives deep into why control feels safer than vulnerability—and why it’s also the fastest way to kill a spark. Equal parts confessional and psychological survival guide, it’s a story of learning to laugh at your anxiety, love through uncertainty, and maybe even stop auditing text messages.

Read it under Do Better. Be Better. and remember: real love isn’t perfect—it’s persistently imperfect, and that’s what makes it worth it.

The Cynical Romantic tackles the overthinking brain with the same humor and heart that fueled the infamous Hero Complex confession. If your ADHD or OCD turns quiet moments into mental marathons, this is your whispered wake-up call. Discover how ASMR — those soothing sounds of rain, tapping, and soft chaos control — can become your emotional reset button. We’re not promising perfection; we’re just teaching your inner hero to whisper instead of shout. So grab your headphones, breathe, and let’s make peace with the mind that never shuts up. It’s mindfulness with sarcasm, wellness with eye rolls — and somehow, it works.

Dive into The Cynical Romantic’s world of overthinking, overfeeling, and occasionally oversharing. From ADHD brain hacks to relationship red flags, this is your one-stop shop for emotional wellness, self-awareness, and the occasional existential giggle. Because who says mental health can’t come with a punchline?

You ever lie awake replaying your life’s blooper reel? Same. That’s where ASMR sneaks in—not the whispery weird stuff your ex mocked, but a science-backed hush button for brains that refuse to clock out. In this LL&S series, Tingles & Whispers, we explore how sound, rhythm, and human attention can calm chaos and help ADHD, OCD, and insomnia survivors find peace without the side of guilt

If you’ve ever lain awake replaying your top-ten regrets while the universe mocks you with silence, ASMR might be your next unlikely fling. Part science, part internet oddity, ASMR is the soft-spoken, tingle-triggering trend that promises calm brains, slower heartbeats, and maybe even better relationships. In this field guide, The Cynical Romantic dissects the phenomenon with the same sharp wit usually reserved for exes and bad first dates.