Dating with ADHD and OCD feels a little like juggling flaming swords while someone yells, “Relax!” This week’s Do Better. Be Better. post goes straight into the tangled wiring of two conditions that love hijacking your plans, emotions, and romantic timing. The Cynical Romantic disusses the science as he has learned it, the chaos, and the deeply human reality of living with both—why burnout hits harder, why relationships get confusing, and why you’re not the disaster your brain whispers you are. Blending expert insights with painfully relatable moments, this post gives hope, humor, and a reminder that your brain isn’t broken—it’s just extra… enthusiastic. If you’ve ever felt like your mind is a pinball machine with no off-switch, this one’s for you.

Neurodivergent love is a special kind of beautiful chaos — part rollercoaster, part scavenger hunt, part emotional group project nobody fully read. This week, The Cynical Romantic unpacks ADHD/OCD relationships with wit, honesty, garlic, and one legendary snack drawer. You’re in good company.

I didn’t realize until writing this post how many of my “communication quirks” were actually symptoms of ADHD and OCD. I just thought I was… socially spicy. Turns out the brain has more influence on our words than we give it credit for. If you’ve ever felt broken because you can’t say the “right thing,” you aren’t. You’re human. And your brain is trying its absolute best.